tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post521470794330164717..comments2024-01-01T06:44:24.089-06:00Comments on Some Mothers Do Ave Em: Fight For FreedomNicolahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07017352687163694581noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-8418016223562765632009-09-18T08:28:10.873-05:002009-09-18T08:28:10.873-05:00What an incredibly powerful post. So sorry to read...What an incredibly powerful post. So sorry to read of your situation. I'm angry on your behalf. Wish I could offer you an easy solution, or even any solution in fact.Rosie Scribblehttp://rosiescribble.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-55961075561189172342009-09-17T15:23:44.435-05:002009-09-17T15:23:44.435-05:00Nicola, I am so sorry that you are in this situati...Nicola, I am so sorry that you are in this situation. My brother married a girl from Canada and they live there, I know that he is and probably always will be terribly homesick. I had to move away from my parents last year due to my husband's job and it has been v hard following my son's diagnosis. (But we only moved in England). All I can say is, I do understand how you feel in a way, as I now live in a very tiny village where I know no one. And you have all my sympathy. What I also feel is this: your circumstances mean that you get maximum time with your sons and I am sure that in the future, you will look back and feel very glad about that. Not much comfort I know. Life is so bloody complicated, isn't it? <br /><br />Also - thank you so much for your very kind words re my blog. Much appreciated. I posted again tonight - I was feeling very low when I decided to stop blogging, but better now. Wish we lived near one another! FxCassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02314685034290160800noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-71342162824004785662009-09-15T18:07:54.579-05:002009-09-15T18:07:54.579-05:00It's funny how easy it is to get wrapped up in...It's funny how easy it is to get wrapped up in the minutae and push aside the bigger issues and bigger pain.<br />I am so used to you living in America that I do the same. Just get on with things. Gloss over what we all are missing and where we both want you to be.<br />Because the truth is that thinking about it breaks my heart.<br />Don't give up, sister soulmate. You will get home. x x xKabbalah Rookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12737692859267786264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-48896586575421975772009-09-15T15:16:17.528-05:002009-09-15T15:16:17.528-05:00Don't know what to say, except thinking of you...Don't know what to say, except thinking of you.Iota https://www.blogger.com/profile/08507184283437057648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-49802560090925090552009-09-15T09:15:56.580-05:002009-09-15T09:15:56.580-05:00Awful. It seems to me that your ex is putting hims...Awful. It seems to me that your ex is putting himself above everyone else (but them a lot of men do). He wants to stay here, so everyone else will have to too. Given that you're both English and there's no extended family here, you might have a chance in the courts but it would be very expensive.<br />I know one young girl who went back to Ireland without her daughter in the end. Her ex gave her very little money (despite being from a wealthy family) and she couldn't continue to live as desperately as she was, so she made the awful decision to go back and leave her child with the father, who then proceeded to give her everything he had denied when the mother had her.<br />There are no words to describe how I feel about him.Expat mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17798190669591053390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-50126935951793685722009-09-15T08:35:19.369-05:002009-09-15T08:35:19.369-05:00Wonderfully written, Nic.
I too have some experi...Wonderfully written, Nic. <br /><br />I too have some experience of this & sympathise with you & YM so very much. From Cape Town originally, met & married my handsome Englishman, moved to London. Ten years and two daughters later everything went pear-shaped... and years later, I'm STILL here. <br /><br />Many's the time I've longed to return 'home' to SA with my girls but I know that if I did I'd break three hearts by doing so. Couldn't do that to my Ex (tempted as I've been on numerous occasions!!) or to my darling girls. <br /><br />It's not an easy thing ... I still feel like an 'outsider' (although I have citizenship now and lovely friends etc) and I know I always will. I will never feel like I belong here (though I've grown to love London very much). But I regularly miss the easy familiarity & sense of security that being close to family brings. <br /><br />I really, really feel for you & Yammy Mammy both. <br /><br />(Phew. Seem to have gone on a bit pof a rant-a-thon!!??! You hit a bit of a nerve, you did!) xxmumplustwohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15602390879909138063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-50930248062379043372009-09-15T04:16:52.272-05:002009-09-15T04:16:52.272-05:00It breaks my heart to read this - I can't beli...It breaks my heart to read this - I can't believe how unfair a system can be that effectively makes a woman choose between living her life and her living with her childrenMuddling Alonghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04702217530704657676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-31482167708351579492009-09-15T02:55:57.502-05:002009-09-15T02:55:57.502-05:00Oh, hugs! My heart was in my throat reading all th...Oh, hugs! My heart was in my throat reading all that. Just - hugs!Mwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00954216492730746581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-28860987871058618322009-09-14T18:15:41.767-05:002009-09-14T18:15:41.767-05:00Nic, you're one of the strongest people I know...Nic, you're one of the strongest people I know. You can do this and have my full support and love.<br />xxxlulu's missiveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00137536605784710186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-80916148275616006832009-09-14T17:08:09.853-05:002009-09-14T17:08:09.853-05:00I just can't even imagine the frustration... ...I just can't even imagine the frustration... Rooting for you bothAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-49076333583385399192009-09-14T16:16:15.621-05:002009-09-14T16:16:15.621-05:00You have me in tears now. Thanks for the support. ...You have me in tears now. Thanks for the support. Although I am rather emotional myself as I've just got off the plane again and you know what that does to me xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04504556289525127816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-55551998315218909772009-09-14T15:55:12.059-05:002009-09-14T15:55:12.059-05:00I'm so sorry, and angry, for you both. Much l...I'm so sorry, and angry, for you both. Much love, xJeanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00124374747737466986noreply@blogger.com