tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post2394336008348750682..comments2024-01-01T06:44:24.089-06:00Comments on Some Mothers Do Ave Em: Psyching Myself Up to Grow Some BallsNicolahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07017352687163694581noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-58488616289772297472009-08-26T17:00:14.106-05:002009-08-26T17:00:14.106-05:00It's time. You're role is just as valuabl...It's time. You're role is just as valuable as his, if not more so. And you do already balls. It's not easy to walk out on an unhappy marriage (Believe me I know) but you did it. Now it's time to look after you a bit and move forward. Take care.Jo Beaufoixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00957369658590225971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-4141560241387931692009-08-26T14:05:15.039-05:002009-08-26T14:05:15.039-05:00I applaud you.
Just bite the bullet and do it!!!...I applaud you. <br /><br />Just bite the bullet and do it!!! <br /><br /><br />Plus- you'll have PLENTY MORE opportunities to screw your kids up. Just like the rest of us humans out there.....Vodka Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04734323418017847775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-91498209999386420962009-08-25T08:35:39.867-05:002009-08-25T08:35:39.867-05:00You've got all the balls you need, girlie. You...You've got all the balls you need, girlie. You are NOT a monster. We've all sworn in front of, about and to our wonderful children at some time or another. They'll survive. <br />But you do need to get some equity in the relationship with the ex since he is clearly comfortable with subordinating your needs (and your mutual agreements) to his own needs and wishes. A financial settlement is a good place to start. <br /><br />Mad xMBNAD womanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11604195971368211750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-39075794381048879832009-08-24T17:06:15.088-05:002009-08-24T17:06:15.088-05:00Thinking of you Nicola. And you're simply try...Thinking of you Nicola. And you're simply trying to do the best for your sons - don't beat yourself up about it.<br /><br />xPotty Mummyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04751869800592294891noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-25609743097669189632009-08-24T02:52:39.267-05:002009-08-24T02:52:39.267-05:00You don't need to grow balls, that would mean ...You don't need to grow balls, that would mean being more like a selfish man, wouldn't it? ;-) <br /><br />It's good to stand up for yourself and set boundaries on what is and isn't acceptable in the situation you now find yourselves in. Do it now before this becomes a habit of his and you feel it's too late to rock the boat. It must be so incredibly difficult, wishing you strength. Take care.Noble Savagehttp://noblesavage.me.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-81728675841966027882009-08-23T16:29:31.476-05:002009-08-23T16:29:31.476-05:00I'm so sorry you're having to go through t...I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. It definitely sounds like it's time - wishing you the best of luck.ellahttp://mostleast.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-21391612755133250832009-08-22T14:59:29.984-05:002009-08-22T14:59:29.984-05:00oh poor you - that sounds like a bad experience an...oh poor you - that sounds like a bad experience and I'm sure things will move forward and feel better all round - it's quite a raw time for everyone and there is bound to be some ruckus or other going on daily - I empathise as I have been through it myself. xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15914996081269091738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-2765485660986209612009-08-22T05:25:52.062-05:002009-08-22T05:25:52.062-05:00Hmmm, you don't think it was being done delibe...Hmmm, you don't think it was being done deliberately, do you? Either way, go grab those balls... (if you'll pardon the expression!)Tim Atkinsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00858684167484655029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-3583261272981640002009-08-22T04:16:12.889-05:002009-08-22T04:16:12.889-05:00Thank you for visiting my blog....similar situatio...Thank you for visiting my blog....similar situations eh? Now I know it's not just my husband that can't put his children first. So selfish aren't they. What would have happened if you'd been 'unavailable'? Poor you....I know that my situation is making it hard to be happy around the children because my thoughts are consumed with angry thoughts etc...I swear a lot in my head too. I never swear in real life but the things that go on in my head now are unbelievable...Where are you, you say 4000 miles away...from the UK Or the other way? Take careChic Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01803588856685163353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-5046515860167438812009-08-22T00:34:50.276-05:002009-08-22T00:34:50.276-05:00that is one tough situation. It is hard enough dea...that is one tough situation. It is hard enough dealing with 2 small boys without that backdrop. Like NVG I often go nuts with mine, and have also been known to swear. Courage ma amie. Good luck sorting it, but it sounds as if it is time to start the process. xDorset Dispatcheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10457466586411004146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-8396556845951436182009-08-21T16:50:49.161-05:002009-08-21T16:50:49.161-05:00Looks like you're in one tough situation. Goo...Looks like you're in one tough situation. Good luck moving forward.Mwahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00954216492730746581noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-74910200784389236662009-08-21T13:11:30.434-05:002009-08-21T13:11:30.434-05:00I reckon you have balls already - you must have do...I reckon you have balls already - you must have done, to walk out on him. And it sounds as if you're coping brilliantly most of the time (NB I often go nuts with my kids - and actually swear -so you are by no means alone.) Best of luck with sorting it all out.nappy valley girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10788949037047084412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-58076957373732112912009-08-21T13:04:28.801-05:002009-08-21T13:04:28.801-05:00If feels like it's time- it's time. Good l...If feels like it's time- it's time. Good luck to youLakeland Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13263946096580997595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-4381658181514338272009-08-21T11:32:11.743-05:002009-08-21T11:32:11.743-05:00I don't think i have anything to add to that a...I don't think i have anything to add to that as everyone els has pretty much summed it up - good luck. And i agree you don't sound like a beast just a normal mum, i have outburst like that several times a day - kids eh?The wife of boldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08829458934561423342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-8953478213683366902009-08-21T10:39:35.782-05:002009-08-21T10:39:35.782-05:00And if my memory serves me correctly, you don'...And if my memory serves me correctly, you don't need to grow any balls. The ones that you had are simply misplaced. And I know you can find them again.Kabbalah Rookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12737692859267786264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-45241002941605541072009-08-21T10:37:16.135-05:002009-08-21T10:37:16.135-05:00You know my thoughts.
Glad that it is time to get...You know my thoughts. <br />Glad that it is time to get things sorted so that you can be the mother that you want to be, rather than the mother that you are being pushed in to being. <br />You're not as much of a beast as you feel. Honest. Promise. Cross my heart.<br /><br />Oh Nicola, Nicola.. think how downright FABULOUS you are going to feel when all of this is sorted out. Proud of you, sister.<br />x x x xKabbalah Rookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12737692859267786264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-33565184555277336282009-08-21T10:18:30.458-05:002009-08-21T10:18:30.458-05:00If you feel it, then it's time.
You know wher...If you feel it, then it's time.<br /><br />You know where I am if you need any help, advice or a rant. I got yer back honey xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04504556289525127816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5778330150286788997.post-45167908664150986982009-08-21T09:52:53.590-05:002009-08-21T09:52:53.590-05:00Yes it's time.
I know that you can do it.
You ...Yes it's time.<br />I know that you can do it.<br />You have us, your friends, to support, listen and possibly advise you.<br />Once you start the process, you'll feel a big sense of relief.<br />The ball (excuse the pun) will be rolling.<br />Breath and be strong.<br />I love you.<br />xxlulu's missiveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00137536605784710186noreply@blogger.com